Change the conversation. Change the results.
Learning Conversation Guideline 5: Slow the Conversation
Think back to a time when you were deeply heard. Reflect on the pace of that conversation and how it felt.
Did you take time to choose words that would have the most meaning? Did you allow time for the person listening to take in your words?
You probably did not force the conversation and were comfortable with periods of silence. It’s likely you allowed the conversation to follow its own course, feeling free to say what was on your heart, and wanted nothing less from the person listening.
It may feel uncomfortable when you first begin to Slow the Conversation, then you will notice that it becomes habitual and the quality and depth of your conversations improve.
It may feel uncomfortable when you first begin to Slow the Conversation, then you will notice that it becomes habitual. Once you begin to make the space to reflect during your conversations, you will wonder how you ever managed to get by before.
Once you begin to make space to reflect during your conversations, you will wonder how you ever managed to get by before.
Slowing the conversation means:
Enabling and embracing silence to digest the previous speaker’s words and deepen common understanding.
Acknowledging other people’s thoughts and ideas as significant.
Taking time to reflect on how the words of others resonate with you and giving voice to that reaction.
It may seem that slowing the conversation will slow down productivity and results. While it may lower the volume of topics discussed during conversations, it will greatly increase the focus and depth of conversations on important issues and lead to better quality decisions and outcomes.